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It’s January 2014.
(Ok, its almost February.)
But, it’s the year I’m going to make lasting changes in my life. I’m on a quest for “follow through” in my life. So, I’ve decided to follow through with ONE thing each month. By the end of the year, I will have succeeded in achieving 12 of my personal goals for living an intentional life. There is SO much more I want to be intentional with, but we all have to start somewhere. So I’ve decided to be intentional with 12 IMPORTANT ISSUES in my life. All of which I want to do RIGHT NOW. But, as you and I both know, wanting it all and having it all, unfortunately, don’t always occur at the same time. So, I’m going to be patient with myself and allow some room for habit formation.
I am working on developing habits with my children this month as well. It is said it takes 60 days to establish something as habit. I’ve shortened it to 30 days each to make this a month-by-month process.
I CAN do this.
Maybe not in my own strength, but I am reminded that “I CAN do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.” Phil 4:13. Even yesterday, I was doubting myself in something and I heard that voice in my head say, “I just don’t know how to change.” But quickly, God whispered in my heart, ” But I do. Trust ME.” Oh, the sweetness and stillness it brought to my soul to know that I could release that which I was struggling with to a God who truly KNOWS me and believes in me, more than I believe in myself most days. He knows my limitations. He knows where I am weak. It is then, that He is strong and ALL the glory for my transformation will be given to Him. Praise God for his everlasting grace and mercy!
So…Here goes everything! A new year for a NEW ME! Yippee! Let the transformation begin!
I will be posting monthly on each habit to keep myself accountable.
Step 1: January
Make my bed.
Step 2: February
Plan meals weekly.
Step 3: March
Drink 64oz water daily.
Step 4: April
Clean up after every meal. Including washing off table and counters, washing dishes
Step 5: May
Unload and load the dishwasher daily and put away dry dishes at end of day.
Step 6: June
Smile. Often. Especially at my husband and children.
Step 7: July
Have a date night once a month with my husband.
Step 8: August
Have a one-on-one date with each child once a month
Step 9: September
Maintain good posture.
Step 10: October
Put ALL laundry away at end of laundry day.
Step 11: November
Be thankful. Write down 3 things DAILY that I am thankful for and verbalize them out loud.
Step 12: December
Find an opportunity for our family to serve once this month.
So, there you have it. 12 months. 12 goals. 12 life transforming steps.
Let the journey begin…
What steps can you take to a “New You” for 2014?
Have you ever thought about how YOU want to be remembered? Have you ever thought of your life with the END in mind, first?
I’m sitting in Starbucks, creating my life plan for 2014. I started listing my priorities for this current year and was inspired to think about how I want to be remembered. I’ve heard others talk about writing their obituaries. To me, writing my obituary is not inspiring. It’s depressing. But thinking about “How I Want To Be Remembered”, now that is inspiring.
As I started writing, I started dreaming of and envisioning my future. I started really thinking about what people will say about me someday…maybe when I’m gone, or maybe when I’m seasoned and gray sitting and reflecting on the one life God had given me. Who was Alissa Perez? Writing about who I want to become, most assuredly helps me to create who I want to be today.
This is who I hope to become…
how I hope to be remembered…
and who I will intentionally strive for being today.
Alissa Perez loved her family and friends, and her love for her God was contagious. Her faith in God was evident in how she lived her life. She taught others to seek first God’s kingdom and her time with God was sacred. She was a devoted wife and her husband was blessed by her all the days of his life. She loved, served and respected him in all he did. Her children adored her and felt calm and peaceful in her presence. She devoted her life to training her children well. She taught them a love of reading, to fear, love and trust God, to respect themselves and others and a genuine love of learning. She showed her children the importance of serving others. She lived selflessly, caring for the needs of other above her own. She had the best smile. And people felt welcome in her presence. Her strong character was apparent to all: integrity, gentleness, compassion, patience and kindness. She cared about others and their circumstances. Her parents always received her heartfelt respect and honor. She invested in her relationships with her friends and family.
She never seemed rushed or in a hurry. Commitment was important in her relationships. She was devoted to prayer and passionately loved to share the message of Jesus with others. The Bible was her book of wisdom, instruction, guidance and truth. She exuded joy-even in difficult circumstances. Thankfulness was in her heart and on her lips. She tried to live simply in a world of abundance. She stuck to her budget and did not desire excess. She was fun to be around and brought humor and grace into her home. She loved to travel and teach her children about the world She listened to jazz and classical music and loved exposing her children to the fine arts. She was quick to listen and slow to speak. When she spoke, she chose words that brought life. She responded with gentleness and grace, not anger and condemnation. She sought God’s wisdom above her own or the opinions of others. She sought order, not chaos but lived a life of freedom and spontaneity. She chose what was better and turned away from that which deterred her from a full life in Christ.
She was confident in who God created her to be and was thankful for the gifts she had been given. She used her talents to the best of her ability in serving the body of Christ. She was not envious but found joy in the blessings of others. She focused on pleasing God, not pleasing man. She loved unconditionally. She lived purposefully. She chose freedom in Christ over fear from the Enemy. She passed on an inheritance of strong faith and character to her children. They will forever be reminded of her love by the intentional memories she created. She was authentic and real. She chose to live for today and hope in tomorrow, rather than regret her yesterdays.
She lived a life full of faith, hope and love.
And above all else she chose LOVE.
How do YOU want to be remembered?
As I begin to pursue intentional living, I am reminded that I am not only responsible for my own life. As the mother of three sweet, precious children, I am responsible for helping mold their character and their lives. What a huge responsibility! So, I started thinking about two questions that I need to answer. First, what strengths do I possess that I want to pass on to my children? And, second, what weaknesses do I struggle with that I would NOT want my children to inherit or learn from me? Whether I realize it or not, I am passing these traits on to my children. So here is my list and my intentional plan to either promote my strengths or change my weaknesses in order to help myself and my children become all that God intends.
- My strengths…
- Faith in Jesus….I will continue to build my relationship with Jesus. Daily. I will make reading God’s word a priority and I will let them see me reading and praying as much as possible.
- Love of reading…I will read to them daily and have books out around the house for them to access easily. I will stop what I’m doing (as much as possible) to read to them when they approach me with a book.
- Integrity…I will continue to make truth be of utmost importance.
- Love of learning…I will look for and provide them with many opportunities to learn. I will engage their curiosity and their natural enthusiasm for life.
- Mercy/compassion…I will show them compassion at all times and model that for them with others. I will love them unconditionally and empathize with their feelings.
- Optimism…I will look for and find the good in people in all circumstances. I will be thankful and content in all situations.
- Love being outside…I will take them to explore nature as much as possible and show them the beauty of God’s creation.
- Love to travel…We will travel with them to as many new places as possible, near and far, while we have the opportunity.
- Good listener…I will really listen to my children as much as possible. I especially will look at them and get to their level when they speak to me.
- Good encourager…I will encourage them in all things. I will build them up with life-giving words. I will speak truth and encourage them to trust God.
- My weaknesses…
- Fear…I will trust God in all things, at all times. I will teach them that with God, we need never to be afraid.
- Worry…I will work on praying instead of wrestling with worry. I will grow in my prayer life, remembering to pray at all times.
- People pleaser…I will remember that the only person I need to please is God alone. He is my judge and my Lord.
- Disorganization…I will simplify as much as possible. I will work on following through with my tasks. God is a God of order, not chaos.
- Too serious sometimes…I will remember to laugh at myself and life. Stop and enjoy today and smile as much as possible.
- Stubborn/prideful..I will acknowledge God’s sovereignty and power in my life. Knowing how BIG God is, reminds me how small I am. Pray for humbleness.
- Judgmental…I will give the grace that I have been so freely given. I will daily remind myself where I have been delivered from. Praise Jesus!
Oh, Lord, this is who I want to become. This is who I want my children to become. Lord, in my own power and strength, I will never be able to master any of this. But it is through your grace and mercy that I have the opportunity to grow in these areas. It is because of your power and generosity that you allow me and my children to grow to become people of strong character. This is my prayer and my greatest desire…to become more like You. Thank you for loving me enough to want this for me too. Amen.
“Don’t just Be…Become, ” were the words I said to my husband about a month ago. We were discussing some dreams and desires we had for ourselves and that sentence just flew out of my mouth. I paused and then I said it again, this time I listened to what I was saying. I don’t just want to “BE”….I want to “BECOME”. To “BE’ means to exist, to be alive. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with existing or being alive. I’m quite thankful for both. But, it sounds so stagnant. I questioned myself…is that ALL we were meant for? I think not. Rather, to “BECOME” means to undergo a change or development! That was it. That was a turning point. Since then, I started taking a look at where I am and where I want to be. I realized several things; first that I am amazingly blessed! We have a beautiful healthy family and being a stay at home mom is what I’ve always dreamed of. I have a devoted, involved and loving husband who inspires me and encourages me in everything, I have a wonderful family and a fabulous group of friends. The second is that I’m a habitual “non-follow-througher”, an “I can’t-er”. I find myself wishing and hoping and wanting and too often, not accomplishing, doing or following through. I’ve set New Year’s Resolutions and failed at following through with them. I think of so many home ideas, activities or memories I want to create for my family but instead find myself saying…”I wish I could…” or “I would love to be able to…” “why can’t I…” or “I wish I would have”. Too often I find myself feeling disappointed and discouraged.
I’m ready to BECOME the woman God wants me to be! Am I the wife, mom, daughter, sister, or friend that I am supposed to be, that I should be? Am I living my life with intention and purpose? I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to miss out on this beautiful life God has given me TODAY. I want to be intentional, to live life on purpose, to be disciplined. I’m exhausted from waking each day without a plan and purpose. This is my journey. My journey to follow through, to finish what I start, to be intentional with my days, and to pursue life change through God’s word! I want to be a real life do-er! And my journey begins right now, right here, this moment! The best part is that I don’t pursue this intentional life alone. God is with me every step of this journey. He is my biggest encourager, guide and inspiration. And I am so thankful He also uses people to encourage us on our journey as well. Your life is entirely different from my own, but ladies, we are on the same team! We were created to encourage each other, to live life in relationship and to build each other up! I’m ready to make some purposeful changes in my life. Let’s do this together! Let’s impact our lives, our families, our world, one small finished task at a time. Are you ready? Let us pursue an intentional life….together!